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How Sexual Assertiveness Will Bring You The Meaningful Connections You Crave

Tell me what you want, what you really, really want! By communicating your desires assertively you can transform your sex life to be more trusting, honest, imaginative and fun, says dating and relationship coach and founder of Tailor Matched, Asa Baav. For the majority of us, talking about the intricacies of our sexual desires is unfamiliar territory.

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5 Signs You’re Sexually Compatible

Dating and relationship coach and matchmaker, Asa Baav, is all about helping people find a partner they’re compatible with – in and out of the bedroom. So what is sexual compatibility? And how can you tell if you’re a good match? Here are Asa’s five surefire ways to tell if your sex life – and

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Sexual Negotiation: What Happens When You Have Different Desires?

What do you do when you aren’t on the same page as your lover about your sexual values, ideas and preferences? I hear the same complaint from my clients over and over again: their exes simply didn’t know how to get them off or they were reluctant to experiment sexually.  Do you know what else

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What We Can Learn From Tantric Sex

Tantra offers a whole new (ancient) way of being in sexual connection, that allows for deeper levels of feeling, sensation, and suuuper pleasurable energy. In this months blog we share our four big lessons from Tantra to supercharge your sex life. As a dating and relationship coach, I get asked about Tantra A LOT by

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A Guide to Edging for Extra Intense Orgasms

As a monthly contributor to Killing Kittens we are this month talking about edging. Think you know everything there is to know about masturbation? Think again! Dating coach, matchmaker and founder of Tailor Matched, Asa Baav says experimentation is essential for a healthy sex life, with self-pleasure the best way to explore what turns you

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5 ways to avoid losing yourself when you fall in love

If you find that you quickly lose your sense of self in the arms of another, allow me to help you make your way back to you. Because healthy romantic relationships start with a healthy relationship with yourself. “Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for

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Awakening Your Female Sexual Powers

As a monthly contributor to Killing Kittens our founder Asa Baav dives into your female sexual powers this months blog. The outdated masculine model of sexuality focused on performance in bed is OUT. Sex that values pussy power and female pleasure is most definitely IN, says the sexpert of the dating industry and founder of Tailor Matched

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How To Talk About Sex + Pleasure: 3 Lessons From The Kink Community

As a monthly contributor to Killing Kittens our founder Asa Baav dives into your what we can learn from the Kink community in this months blog. Despite popular myths, kink isn’t all about whips and chains, but rather how openly you’re willing to talk about the sex you’re having, says the sexpert of the dating industry Asa

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Sexy and delicious food inspiration

Ok so you can’t leave the house for drinks at the bar, but you very much can indulge in a little digital date via the magic of Zoom, Skype or FaceTime.  Why not make dinner together? We have teamed up with Sunil Pithwa for some sexy and delicious inspiration. Sunil is a passionate home cook who loves cooking

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8 Ways To Make Online Dating Work For You In The Age Of Coronavirus


How do we persevere with dating as the global pandemic turns our lives upside down? Use quarantine as an opportunity to to relearn how to date and discover how to have sex without touching. Here’s my guide to online dating during the Coronavirus. 1. Be creative! Who were you before Convid-19 and who do you

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Why sexual compatibility matters

I often hear people say, “but, I don’t have an extreme fetish, I am quite vanilla in bed. Can I still sign up?” YES YOU CAN! This is EXACTLY why it is important we talk about just that – sexual compatibility. Data from the British National Surveys of Sexual Attitudes and Lifestyles, indicates one in four UK couples are imbalanced in

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Why Is Vulnerability So Attractive To Women?

We need to talk about harnessing the power of vulnerability – it could be the difference between developing an honest, open and long-lasting relationship, or staying single. In my experience as a dating coach, matchmaker (and woman), a man who can embrace the risk of being emotionally vulnerable, is a man we all want on

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Coming Soon: The Podcast

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